Words, Sticks, and Stones Can Break Bones
Issue #0002 October 8, 2019
Happy Tuesday, October 8, 2019!
Wealth Matters Focal Point today: Our vocabulary and the way that we choose to use it directly contributes to the level of emotional wealth we experience on a day-to-day basis. Choosing our words carefully and understanding the context of the aggregate effect of words on society is the focus of today’s insights.
“Everyone of us from time to time will lack self-esteem. Nothing is wrong – we are simply human. Self-worth, on the other hand, is the emotional net worth that reflects of our personality balance sheet of who we are-all of our strengths, and who we are not-all our weaknesses and flaws.” ~Chet Snook
Permit me to suggest that the quality of our lives can be directly related to the quality of the words we use with ourselves and others, and the quality of questions that we ask both quietly and out loud before we speak.
Words have tremendous POWER to create or destroy.
The words we use literally define and shape our lives because they are the tools we use to express the pictures and thought sequences that we see across the screen of our mind.
You could predict with reasonable accuracy the level of intelligence, fulfillment, self-confidence, self-respect, and power of a total stranger if you were to spend thirty minutes listening to them talk or read a few dozen of their tweets.
The effect on society when our leaders call each other names like “wack job” or “criminal” violates much more than common decency. It erodes the very certainty we have in our rule of law, our moral compass, our institutions, and our inner sense of peace because it is only human to react. It is human to feel that remaining silent will only allow the most egregious offenders of respectful discourse to go unchecked. Examples are everywhere of how we have devolved around the issue of words.
This is not me pointing a finger at the most obvious culprits (whom I am powerless to control), but pointing a finger at myself (and hoping you will do likewise) to get better in whose words I consume, and how I talk to myself and respond to those around me in my own daily discourse.
My call-to-action today-is to find a tweet or a person in your office today offer words of empathy and encouragement to someone who is hurting and using #kindwordsmatter in the tweet. Every one of us is hurting in some way from time to time and needs to know that humanity can still be kind. See this example I found without even looking on October 4th and the difference that hundreds of strangers and friends made on October 6th
Words shape thoughts-thoughts shape feelings-feelings shape action-actions shape destiny!
Our dominating thought patterns are shaped by the extent to which we get emotionally involved with certain phrases, words, and ideas on a continual basis. To think the contrary is a fool’s game and one that will lead to disappointment, stress, and frustration.
Words bind, clarify, distinguish, and crystallize what we commonly refer to as our reality but what is, in fact, our integrity. Reality is based on an intellectual faculty that all human beings possess called perception. Perception is our innate “meaning-making” mechanism of the universe which “is.” Everything that enters our consciousness just “is” until we invoke the Law of Relativity and compare it against something else. For instance, murder “is.” Murder is only “bad” when it is compared to most people’s moral compass or something like the Ten Commandments, which dictates a moral law that says, “Thou shalt not murder.”
Integrity could easily be defined as the level to which we do what we say we will do when we say we will do it (i.e., honoring our word). Integrity is what dictates how we show up in reality through other people’s perceptions.
For instance, if we use the words “I will meet you at 8p.m.,” and we consistently arrive at 8:30 pm then there is a disconnection between the words we say and the results we deliver. Our circle of influence will naturally perceive us as someone who is always late, and our word will lose power. Likewise, when we honor our word with supporting and consistent action then the power of our word increases, and thus our ability to create and mold a life we love increases as well.
“If you are willing to find fertile soil, there will always be a way to bloom where you are planted.” ~ Chet Snook
You may be asking, “What do words have to do with wealth?” Well, I suggest that they have EVERYTHING to do with wealth, and across all six areas of human potential! Put my theory to the test right now.
Stop and think about the areas of your life that you feel wealthy and abundant in right now, and then look at how well you honor your word and commitments (both small and large) in that area. Once you have done that, look at the areas of your life where you feel “lacking” right now and again be honest with how well you honor your word in those areas on a consistent basis.
I would be willing to bet that if you are financially successful right now then you would probably be able to tell me that you consistently honor your work commitments by meeting them on a consistent basis and without making excuses when you do not.
If your relationships are “wealthy” right now then I am willing to bet that when you promise to be at your spouse or significant other’s special event by leaving work early, you are there. If your relationships are lacking or non-existent then I would imagine that “something came up at the last minute” and that “you promise to make it up next time.”
Habits to Cultivate Your Word Power…
Make a list today of words that trigger you and spend some time meditating on why your relationship to those words exists
Make a list of words today you know trigger those around you (even if you love to use that word and have no negative emotions around it), and find a synonym of 3 to swap out when communicating the same message to those people.
When it comes to your life adopt this sentence as a mantra “I will always find a way to bloom where I am planted”
Have a great Tuesday! Chris
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